Di workshop Personal Power saya, banyak orangtua, terutama para ibu, yang mengkhawatirkan secara berlebihan anak-anak remajanya dan menuntut diadakan kelas khusus untuk anak-anak mereka. Ada yang kemudian mengirimkan anak-anaknya ke workshop saya, karena mereka malas menularkan keterampilan yang mereka dapatkan dalam workshop. Para peserta remaja ini kadang juga stres menghadapi orangtua yang terlalu mengkhawatirkan diri mereka, terjadi percekcokan, dan akhirnya mereka sendiri menjadi khawatir dengan masa depan mereka.
Di bawah ini ada dua metafora yang barangkali bisa menjadi jamu beras kencur (menyegarkan, menyembuhkan dan/atau menghibur) orangtua maupun remaja yang memiliki kekhawatiran berlebihan tentang masa depan mereka.
Yang pertama adalah sebuah puisi (asli serta terjemahan bebasnya) dari Virginia Satir – jenius Family Therapist yang dimodel oleh NLP – ketika menghadapi seorang gadis pemarah usia 15 tahun yang mengajukan pertanyaan-pertanyaan tentang dirinya dan apa sesungguhnya arti kehidupan.
Kedua – dari George Reavis – yakni sebuah metafora tentang kehidupan hewan yang sesungguhnya sarat arti untuk diterapkan dalam kehidupan, khususnya orang yang terlalu mengkhawatirkan bakat dan hubungannya dengan kesuksesan hidup. Di samping itu juga banyak makna lain yang bisa dipetik darinya.
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I am me.
In all the world, there is no one exactly like me.
There are persons who have some parts like me,
but no one adds up exactly like me.
Therefore, everything that comes out of me
is authentically mine because I alone choose it.
I own everything about me
My body including everything it does;
My mind including all its thoughts and ideas;
My eyes including the images of all they behold;
My feelings whatever they may be…
anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement
My Mouth and all the words that come out of it
polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect;
My Voice loud or soft.
And all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
Because I own all of me I can become intimately acquainted with me.
By doing so I can love me and be friendly with me in all parts.
I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,
and other aspects that I do not know.
But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,
I can courageously and hopefully, look for solutions to the puzzles
and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think
and feel at a given moment in time is me.
This is authentic and represents where I am in that moment in time.
When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how
I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.
I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting,
And invent something new for that which I discarded.
I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people
and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.
I am me and I am okay
Sumber :
Buku # 1 dari 3 buku terbaru RH Wiwoho yang terangkum dalam
Trilogi Pemimpin, Wanita dan Terapis.
Trilogi # 1 berjudul : Ketika Maju Salah Mundur pun Salah,
Trilogi # 2 : Terapi-terapi Kilat, dan
Trilogi # 3 : Sahabatku Bernama Takut.
Tersedia di toko buku terdekat.
Juni 2014